Project: 3 Days of Edging ( How To Make Bigger Cum Shots )

Project Day 1:  How To make Bigger Cum Shots

Day 1  (Morning):
I woke up on day 1 in the morning before work with the alarm clock sounding off and my morning erection aching.  I lean into Nessa and whisper in her ear to rub lube on her pussy.   She slowly grumbles because she hasn’t woken up yet, leans over and grabs the coconut oil and wets up her hairless crotch.  She is such a loyal woman.  Her patience and dedication turns me on so much.  She slides back into me, spoon position.  Her ass is arched back at the perfect angle so her pussy is right in my lap.  Without using hands I guide my hard dick into her lubed up tight vagina.  No matter how many times this happens, the first insertion is always met with a euphoric resistance by her walls.  A woman’s pussy is so tight before the penis gets a chance to loosen it up in the coming moments.  Nessa, no matter how tired, always releases loud gasps as my dick slides inside her.  She loves it.  Her body craves the feeling of her walls stretching and the massage my dick gives her.  For the rest of the day her vagina will have to stay in her snug and hidden at work, smashed inside her wet panties, unable to breath. Uncomfortable and unused.  Tight and moist.  My morning dick is like a perfect stretch her body and womanhood needs.  Imagine the feeling of someone stretching between your toes after a long day walking in the tightest shoes, or putting your hands together and forcing your fingers backwards in a stretching motion after squeezing them all day.  It’s so relieving for our bodies to feel this natural stretch that releases all our tension and stress.  I give her that feeling with my dick.  how to make bigger cum shots and more cum

I move back and forth between going balls deep inside her pussy, to pulling my dick all the way out, and without hands, putting pressure on the rim of her ass.  No matter how hard my dick is, the head of my penis still has soft tissue that I can push against her anus and massage her rim.  I can always sense her slight hesitation because there is a chance that when my head penetrates her ass, she will get that feeling of needing to use the bathroom and ruin the moment.  The key is to go slow, push slowly, and only insert about 2 inches inside to let her feel the stretch, but not penetrate past her inner nerves that creates that uncomfortable burn.  This isn’t talked about much, but getting a woman to love anal depends on how much you warm up that first few inches, never rush in.  I don’t want to go deeper, I just want to feel her give her body to me, every hole.  I take my dick and slide it back inside her pussy.  She moans and really enjoys feeling her husband use both of her holes. how to make bigger cumshots and more cum

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Q&A: My Wife of 13 Years Just Told Me She Has Been Faking Orgasms

My wife of 13 years just told me she has been faking orgasms. We’ve had what I thought was a good sex life but she just dropped the bomb that she can’t actually orgasm from penetrative sex and that she’s faked it all along.

13 years, we’ve done it hundreds of times and it was fake. Every single time.

I was stunned and am feeling deeply hurt, but from her point of view she feels like it was an overreaction. What should I do? Am I wrong to feel let down?

Nessa’s response: 
Faking orgasms was something I could never do.  I don’t know if it was because I was stubborn or I just felt awkward |”pretending” to cum. Because of that, I disappointed Ryan so much in the beginning of our relationship.  Sex always felt great, but without extra stimulation or oral sex, pure penetration just couldn’t get me off.  In hindsight, knowing Ryan, maybe I should have “faked it till I made it,” because eventually it happened.  As much as I wouldn’t put on a show for Ryan and he couldn’t make me orgasm through penetration alone, I also provided nothing exciting for his mind sexually.  I was just laying there, unable to cum, eyes closed trying to concentrate on my orgasm.  My honesty made me fuck like a pillow queen. Truthfully, the theatrics behind an orgasm is much like moaning or screaming for a man, even if his penis is small.  Or telling a man with a smaller penis how big it feels inside you.  How good it feels stretching your walls.  Why is that bad to make sex better for him?  Obvious I understand it’s dishonest, which is why I had so much trouble with it, but it’s dishonest in a way that she just wants you to feel good about yourself.  She is being dishonest the same way a mother tell her ugly child that he is beautiful.  It may not be true, but a woman is naturally nurturing and likes to make sure her man feels good about himself.

Oh god, that was an awful analogy.  Sorry.

The point is, she was dishonest and I understand why you are hurt.  There is nothing you can do it about it now.  She may just not be able to ever orgasm through penetration, so hopefully you have been also taking care of her other ways:  oral, toys, fingers, or letting her play with herself to find out what she “really” likes.  If you felt your penis was the only thing giving her pleasure for 13 years and just found out that not only has she been faking it, but you also depended on just sex to get her off, take it as a learning experience.  Women need more.  I’d suggest going to a toy shop together, or going online, and finding a vibrating wand and see where that leads you.  

Ryan’s response: 
There are a lot of things you will have to deal with.  Firstly, trust.  If she can lie to you for years about that, what else has she lied about?  I understand your frustration and this is something you will have to work out with her.  If you love her, you guys should be fine.  Personally, I don’t see a woman faking an orgasm as a bad thing.  This might be because for years I had to deal with the exact opposite, but I will list off a few reasons why a woman may be faking her orgasms:

She loves you and wants her man to feel like the greatest man on earth.  That’s a woman’s nature.  Part of that idea means that she wants you to feel like you were perfect in bed.  Perfect means, you made her cum too.

She is insecure and scared that if you find out you aren’t making her cum, you will think something is wrong with her.  Maybe you won’t love her as much as your previous girlfriend that you made cum multiple times per night. A lot of women are really insecure about the inability to orgasm through pure penetration, although it’s much more common than most people think.  Unfortunately, once she fakes it once, it’s kind of hard to just stop faking it.  Usually when they stop faking it, it’s because they stop caring.  Hopefully in your case, it is because she wanted to come clean and maybe possibly relearn sex with you, so you both can enjoy it together.

Sex by nature conditions us to believe that we should end sex with a “happy ending.”  Most men do not stop sex until they orgasm.  Well, when you are on top of your wife she may feel awkward just staring at the ceiling like she is reading and issue of Cosmopolitan.  

The theatrics of having an orgasm makes sex fun and exciting.  Much like dirty talk or moaning.  As men, I can have sex and be completely quiet.  In fact, when I first had sex I didn’t make a sound.  Nessa made it clear to me that she wants to hear me, so with a little bit of an open mind, theatrics, and just letting go of my inhibition, I moan and talk dirty to make her enjoy sex too.  That works both ways.

She may be faking orgasms to control your orgasms.  Personally, if Nessa says she is going to cum, my prostate instantly fills up with semen and I have to strain to keep myself from orgasming as she enjoys hers.  However, she can tell when my body is getting ready, she knows when anything can set me off.  If she wanted, she could let me know she enjoyed her time with me and use her body language to help me finish sooner than I would have otherwise.  Maybe she is tired, maybe she is sore, maybe she doesn’t want you to keep going after you are done.  A lot of times women can be satisfied, satisfying you.  For years Nessa couldn’t orgasm through sex and she would look up at me and let me know, “I love you, it feels great, but it just isn’t going to happen.”  As much as men want the truth, there were times I wished she would fake it because I felt maybe I deserved it.  Did I do everything right?  Did I go long enough?  I remember going for hours, my penis hurting, sweaty, and asking her what she wanted me to do, because I would have done anything to please her.  These days, knowing she can orgasm through sex, which took almost 12 years together, if she actually decided to fake it at times, I wouldn’t mind  or feel betrayed.  I feel like her intentions are good and she wants me to feel good about our sex.  She knows I care her needs, she knows I try, and she knows I don’t neglect her body, so why ruin the moment?

If your relationship is happy and you both are in a good space, I feel like her faking it was because she was protecting your ego.  She may have also been protecting herself from being judged as “flawed” as well.  Either way, once she started faking, she knew that when she stopped, she would have to let you know the truth.  Her lie lasted 13 years.  Hopefully you can work through that and find a positive resolution.  

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Q&A: Why Do I Cry After Sex?

After sex I always feel like crying

So basically, every time I sleep with my partner and in any previous relationships before, I’ve always felt bad after sex. I’ve cried a few times before but I always told them it was so nice and that’s why I cried. Well, it’s not that it wasn’t nice and whilst we’re at it, it doesn’t feel bad in any way and I love it! It’s just that afterwards I hate that I did it. I regret it and I don’t understand why because there’s nothing to regret about sleeping with the person you love more than anything.

Also, I really hate being held or kissed afterwards, most of the times I wish I were somewhere else, alone by myself. It’s really odd because I don’t know where this is coming from or why I’m so emotional and weird afterwards, as nothing negative has ever happened to me or I can’t think of anything that’s triggering this behavior. Does anyone else feel the same way? Why am I so disgusted afterwards?

Nessa’s response: 
I have cried during sex a few times with Ryan but that is my only experience with that emotion. I believe my crying had to do with me feeling in love and being happy.  It may also have had something to do with feeling another human inside my body or enjoying me, because that wasn’t something I was used to either. I also was experiencing the sex euphoria for the first time and not really understanding why everything felt so good.  I think my experience isn’t quite the same as yours.  You may have experienced something traumatic with sex growing up, or you may just feel ashamed you liked something that the world tells you sex is something you do after you are married.  If you are religious, had strict parents that talked down on sex, or just wanted to save yourself, and slowly the more men you open up to, the more men have you as a notch on their belt (sorry, that sounds awful).  I will admit, sometimes the guilt is real.  When you do find your future husband, it may hurt him thinking about your various other experiences with different men, different sizes.  Men are sensitive and maybe you understand this idea already and feel guilty about that?  There are so many reasons and emotions behind crying, you should look deeper inside yourself and figure out why you react the way you do.  

Ryan’s response:
I have only cried once after sexual activity.  My moment happened the first time Nessa experienced me having an orgasm.  We were just making out and weren’t sexually active yet.  We talked about it a lot, but had never had any type of penetration.  She was whispering in my ear how much she loved me, rubbing my body, while I stroked myself.  I was so insecure about my penis and everything she would glance down, I was scared and felt inside she didn’t like what she saw. I was young though, and this was the first time I felt comfortable enough to let a girl even look at me.  As I came she whispered in my ear that it was so sexy and she couldn’t take he eyes off my penis. I think this was the first time she saw a man cum in real life, and the first time a girl had ever seen my orgasm.  I made a mess on myself.  I felt so vulnerable, so ashamed, so embarrassed, and truthfully, thought that Nessa was laughing at me on the inside.  I don’t know why, but I felt almost as if I exposed myself, but she kept her purity.  Other than her naughty talk, she was still a total secret to me.  When I was in high school, I was always so concerned about a girl having sex with me and then running off and telling all her friends my penis size, how I fucked, and a bunch of other things I know today aren’t even that serious. Regardless, I took my privacy serious (I would have never thought that one day I would turn a live stream and let people voyeur our everyday sex life).  This fear kept me from being intimate with any girl, even though I did have a few chances.  I began crying, my stomach soaked in my own semen, and Nessa asked me what was wrong.  I could only say, “You are never going to love me after this.” In my mind, I felt almost used, exposed, and my biggest fear had came true: A girl saw everything about me, knew what it was like to experience me, and I knew nothing about her.  

I was wrong about my fear and shortly after Nessa and I began having sex. She had been the only girl I was ever comfortable enough to let her see me nude, and to also maintain my erection without my nerves getting to me.   As far as I know, Nessa never talked about her experience with me to others, and none of her friends giggled at me, made fun of me, or said anything to me about what had happened.  

I think crying after sex has to do with our society making sex  taboo and shameful, especially prior to marriage. You are also coming down from an endorphin high, which messes with the chemical balance of your body.  Even if you do not have an orgasm, sex feels good because your whole body has a chemical reaction.  Endorphins are released and you feel this very strong connection and euphoric feeling.  As soon as sex stops, sometimes the connection stops as well.  The high goes away and reality sits in.  “Was I just used?  Am I a slut?  Does he really even love me?  Why am I doing this?”  Below is a an article I found regarding my answer:

According to a 2015 study published in Sexual Medicine, crying after sex (known as post-coital dysphoria or PCD) is a bit more common than one would think, at least in college-aged women. The research found 46 percent of those surveyed had cried at least once after sex, while five percent of those surveyed had felt down or blue multiple times after intercourse in a four-week span.

Ian Kerner, a sex therapist who spoke to Health about the topic, said that part of the reason why PCD occurs in some cases is chemically based. “Especially for women, sex and orgasm can release the hormone oxytocin, which facilitates attachment and connection,” Kerner said. But, especially with more casual sexual encounters, there can be a disconnect between the chemicals signaling attachment and the fleeting reality of the situation. “With a pattern of fight, have sex, and repair, the sex may feel great, but afterward, you may realize you aren’t really connected or you’re still angry,” explains Kerner. 

Additionally, the Health article mentions PCD to be reflective of issues in a relationship if it occurs after intercourse with your significant other (although, sex is one of those totally normal things couples fight about).  Kerner says that more research is needed on the topic, but recommends seeing a sex therapist as a possible avenue to addressing the experience. – Health