Q&A: Husband says I give the best blow jobs ever, but why did he cum with another girl in 2 minutes!?

Husband says I give the best blow jobs ever, but when we recently had a threesome, he had an orgasm after 2 minutes of her sucking his dick.

When I give hubby a blow job it takes him forever to cum. I am talking 15-20 minutes. Yet I could get most others I have given blow jobs to cum in about 2-5 minutes. Fast forward to this past weekend and my husband got a blow job from this much fitter and much younger woman. He blew a huge load in like less than 2-3 minutes. I asked him later if she sucked cock better than me and he said absolutely no. I asked him why he came so quick and he said, “Baby your blow jobs feel so good I hold back on purpose.” I told him I want to see how quick I can get him off so he said “Okay.” Tonight he is getting greeted naked and getting unzipped immediately to see.

What is y’all experience on time?

Nessa’s response to best blow jobs ever
If a man says a bj is so good that he holds back on purpose, he may be telling the truth. So I would take that as a compliment. However, if he orgasms faster with a “much fitter and much younger woman,” then I could see how that would be confusing and possible hurt a woman’s feelings. But judging by your question, it doesn’t seem like you’re more focused on how long it takes for him to orgasm than jealousy of a younger woman making him cum faster. So I will address that. In my experience, depending on how “turned on” my man is, or if he has not came in a long time, it can be super quick (2-3 minutes). If we’ve been having sex, then switch to blowjobs, then back to sex, then back to blowjobs, then it can take longer (10 minutes).

Ryan’s response to best blow jobs ever
Personally I think if you let your husband get a blow job from a fitter, younger woman, you should not judge him on how quick he orgasms.  If you are insecure in your oral sex abilities, then do not open the door for other women to please your man.  Having a strange woman that is fit and younger sucking your penis can turn you on more than you would normally be turned on.  Forget the fit and younger part, just the fact she is strange and new.  This new girl could be the worst at giving oral sex but because it’s so new, the man may be going through some inner egotistical horny phase of having a strange woman down on her knees pleasing him.  Sometimes this our inner thoughts and desires make us orgasm quickly, regardless of what the mouth is actually doing on our dicks.  If Nessa is talking extremely dirty to me, or doing something wild like throwing up in my lap, I may orgasm from just seeing something so crazy.  If she flips me over and licks my ass, I may cum on the couch before she even turns me back over.  However, none of that has to do with how good she is giving me a blow job, just how turned on I am.  A new woman can turn us on because she is new.  In my opinion, that’s the excitement and rush you get from having a third person in your bedroom.  It should not be offensive because that is why you probably decided to try (swinging / threesomes) in the first place.  There may be  nothing special about her skills, her technique, or anything else.  If you are allowing him to get blow jobs from other women, you should be in a mental space where you want him turned on and having fun.  That’s the whole purpose.   

For the record, yes, sometimes we do hold back.  Although not always talked about, the build up to the orgasm is much more satisfying than the actual orgasm itself.  The orgasm is a final release, closure.  However, the sex high, the endorphins, the stress relieving, the bonding, the emotional connection, the “love” we feel towards a woman, is during the euphoric stage where we are building up to our orgasms.  At least for me.  If I didn’t have feelings for a woman, I probably would just fuck or sit back and get my dick sucked to have a release.  I personally wouldn’t want a mental connection or a long euphoric stage where I feel some sort of bond.  I just want to cum.  So Nessa is right, take that as a compliment.

The Legend Of Heather I Love Deepthroat: An Incomplete Story Of America’s Greatest Amateur Porn Star

The Legend Of Heather “I Love Deepthroat” Harmon 

If it wasn’t for Heather Harmon and Jim Harmon, Fuckblogging.com may have never existed.  Well, that may be giving them a little too much credit. However, a lot of edgy twitter accounts with amateur couples sharing their naughty pics and videos, all started with this amateur couple (or this was the first couple that really blew up back when the internet was the wild wild west).  I believe one of our first blogs ever was Nessa writing about her experiences in learning to deepthroat.   And from there, our blog kind of moved into a lot of other things, including threesomes with other women, videos, and naughty photos.  Unfortunately for us, we never got rich off our blog, in fact, we haven’t made a penny!  But, to pay homage to these amateur legends that went from married couple uploading a few videos, to all out porn stars in the early 2000s, we decided to share a great article by Hersh Bavnik.  

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Attention all Virgins Looking To Have Sex For The First Time

Like A Virgin, Touched For The Very First Time

We found an interesting take on the idea of losing your virginity being “over hyped” and not a big deal.  Although this guide was written with the right idea in mind, the author seems to lose himself and accidentally makes virginity that much more of a big deal.   I mean, he wrote a whole essay about it!

Disclaimer:  It may seem like we are coming off toxic, but please know we are just being lighthearted and having fun with the article.  Our comments are meant to add a bit of entertainment value to the original guide, because… why not?

LOSING YOUR VIRGINITY ISN’T THAT BIG OF A  DEAL  A GUIDE TO LOSING YOUR VIRGINITY.

So, I’ve just turned 28 which means that I’m now enough of an old man to give life advice 🙂  I’ve been reading a bunch of people asking questions about the topic of losing their virginity lately and wanted to give my thoughts.

Losing your virginity is a big deal only if you never had sex

We’re conditioned by society (and maybe religion too) to think of our first time having sex as this huge milestone, like a watershed moment in becoming adults, or something like that. There are countless movies about boys and girls having sex for the first time (more on that later).

In retrospect, your first time having sex is no big deal. It will just be the first time of many more. Ten years later, you’ll consider that moment just the same as the first day of school as a kid. While you might remember well your first math class (and it might still haunt you), your memories from your schooling days will be primarily made of all the other experiences you’ve had during those years.

Your first time will be ‘ok’ at best

Forget the movies: your first time is very unlikely to be anything like that. Sex is dirty, messy, stinky, and in general quite gross, to be honest. You might end up being all sweaty (try showering together at the end). It likely won’t be as finely romantic as in that Hollywood movie.

In my first time, I remember being so nervous and excited at the same time, that I actually had a partial black out, and at the time I felt like I was “on autopilot” and my memories are confused (yet I was fully sober).

Nessa:  Yea, it’s totally not a big deal guys.  I mean, you will get confused, literally black out from all the endorphins like you are high and drunk, and then write about it for years to come.  Not a big deal though.  lol.

Ryan:   And this is why men all over the world are excited, anxious, and can’t wait to lose their virginity.  They want to black out too!!  You can ride a roller coaster once and be so scared and excited that you black out. That’s a rush and a crazy experience.  Now if you ride roller coasters so much it loses all it’s luster, then yes, it’s easy to look back and say, “Riding a roller coaster isn’t a big deal.”  Nothing compares to the first time you rode a roller coaster, even if it was the old clunky wood one that didn’t do any loopty loops!  

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The Perfect Penis according to Women

The Perfect Penis

Finally there is an answer to what women consider to be the perfect penis.  Or is there?

A recent study published in The Journal of Sexual Medicine gathered 105 women to, in addition to other research goals, determine exactly what “factors” (things like cosmetic appearance, shape of glans, pubic hair, etc.) were most important to them.

Study authors sent out a questionnaire to the women (ages 16 to 45) asking them to rate eight penis parts by level of importance. Then those women observed, judged, and rated images of men’s penises on a scale from one to five.

After women saw pictures of various penises, they were asked again what was the perfect penis.   Their perception changed on what they considered the perfect penis.

Female rankings of importance BEFORE viewing images:

1. General cosmetic appearance (the beauty of it)
2. Appearance of pubic hair (hairy, trimmed, hairless)
3. Penile girth
4. Penile skin
5. Shape of glans
6. Penile length
7. Appearance of scrotum
8. Position and shape of meatus

Female rankings of importance AFTER viewing images:

1. General cosmetic appearance
2. Penile skin
3. Shape of glans
4. Appearance of scrotum
5. Appearance of pubic hair
6. Penile length
7. Penile girth
8. Position and shape of meatus

In this survey there is one thing missing that we would consider the most important factor of them all.  “You love and know the man behind the penis vs The Man behind the penis is a stranger.”   I understand they want to focus this survey on physical features, but a penis isn’t perfect if the man wearing it isn’t attractive to the woman. And more so than attractive, if she has feelings for the guy.  If the woman is in love, a very average penis becomes a gift from the heavens.  As we have always stated, a woman in love with you will find your penis perfect. 

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