Texting, Sexting, Distance, and Visible Communication Creates Stronger Relationships

Texting, Sexting, Distance, and Visible Communication Creates Stronger Relationships.

We have a Question and Answer blog section that deal with couples questions and their various problems they have in their relationship.  We have learned that most of the time the biggest issue is a simple lack of communication.  Whether it be questions about anal, dildo size, threesomes, swinging, jealousy, or any other relationship issue, communication is the key to dealing with relationship issues.

Texting, Sexting, and Distance

From the beginning of our own relationship, college separated us.  As much as you’d think this was a bad start, I feel that our long distance relationship helped our relationship more than anything we have ever done.  With Ryan and I being on different coasts, we had to deal with jealousy, trust issues, sex, and everyday life, through communication and text (instant) messages.  We were unable to kiss and make up, fuck and make up, or ignore problems because of all the physical interactions that tend to replace actual communication.  Is there anything easier than ignoring compatibility and personality issues between two people because the sex is so good, it almost makes everything seem better?  That isn’t possible with distance.  Your words and thoughts are the only thing that matters.  Back then, texting wasn’t as common, but using your PC and AOL instant messenger was.  Each night Ryan and I would sit and talk about everything that happened in our day.  The good, the bad, the ugly.  Sometimes we would argue and block each other when we got upset.  Once blocked, the only way to really communicate would be for one of us to call the other.  Long distance wasn’t cheap, and as poor college kids, this was a big deal.  Sometimes I think we argued just to hear the other person’s voice for 10 minutes.   Eventually, we’d make up on the phone and tell the other to go back to their PC and so we could talk again.  Now that the argument for the night was over we’d feel the urge to connect and make up.  Much like normal relationships, we would start to sext back and forth and discuss various sexual ideas.

Make Up Sext

This form of communication made it extremely easy to explore our kinks.  I have learned over years, that being in the same room can make it harder to communicate.  As soon as you talk about your kinks, you get a bit frisky and want to get closer.  The more you touch, the sooner you find yourself nude with your legs spread begging for your man to cum inside you.  When you are done, you are both exhausted and sex is the furthest thing on your mind.  Instead you turn on your favorite show and hang out with each other.  As you get older, other things take place a television:  children, errands, cleaning, cooking.  Although you can obviously have good quality time while in the same room, it’s clear that physical interaction can interfere with communication.  With distance, that just isn’t possible.  Although we were both young and inexperienced, without being able to physically touch or get intimate, we would use our words and imaginations to turn each other on.  The things you learn about another person through spending time sexting, without the ability to let the physical world stop you from communicating, is mind blowing.  I fell head over heels in love with Ryan because of his words and mind.  In the process, I wanted to find out what made him happy, what made him horny, what he wanted from me that no other girl could ever give him.  This opened a Pandora’s box.  You learn each other’s darkest and deepest fantasies.  You also find out if your kinks and sex drives are compatible.  No skeletons are left in the closet.  To be honest, I didn’t even know people wanted to lick each other’s asses!   But after months and months of talking, I knew the first night I was back with Ryan, I was going to turn him over, spread his cheeks, and go to town on his ass hole.   Not only was it not weird anymore, I was excited.  That’s the power of communication. 

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